Tuesday, November 30, 2010


I've been feeling pretty ill the past few days, so I haven't been that active on my blog. I even have a great topic I want to talk about, but I don't have the energy to put it into the right words. Inshallah when I'm feeling better I will post it. I'm really hoping I will feel better soon, but the doctor said it might be a while before I do. WAIN! (yes, that's my crying noise..lol). But my husband has been soo good mashallah. He is cleaning and cooking and taking care of me so well. And he hasn't complained at all! May Allah (swt) grant him jannat al firdous! Ameen!

If you guys have an extra second, please do send a dua my way that I feel better soon, inshallah!

On a happier note, a few girls I know (and some I don't) have decided to start a halaqa in my area! YAY finally! Alhamdulillah. I have been trying on my own to increase my iman these past few weeks and it has been working, but a halaqa will be really good for me, since it puts you in that environment. Also, every week a different girl with give the talk, so that will give me some motivation to study and have a topic ready when it is my turn. The first halaqa is on Tuesday so inshallah I'll be feeling better by then!

I hope all is well with you guys!

Until next time...

Wednesday, November 24, 2010


I'm so annoyed by people nowadays, it's ridiculous. I really need to start being more patient, but sometimes I can't help it. Especially when you're so nice to someone and they just go and leave you behind. Like, seriously?!? Why did I even waste my time? I guess if I could go back, I'd still be nice. I don't like being a rude person, but it's so frustrating when you don't get the same in return. Or you only get the "niceness" while it's convenient for the other person, but as soon as they get busy or something, you're left behind.

Sometimes, I just wish I could speak my mind. I try to mostly, but I can't go around picking a fight every time something doesn't go my way. I just have to learn to let some things go.

WELL SCREW YOU, TOO! Alhamdulillah (LOL).

Until next time...

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Locked in my room

Well, I was locked in my room this morning. LOL!

Well, not actually locked, but I couldn't leave because my brother-in-law was over and my husband wasn't home. This ends up happening sometimes because my bro-in-law (we'll call him A) will sleep over sometimes and my husband leaves for works usually around 8:30 am and A, who is younger than my husband and unmarried, doesn't go to work until later.

So, when I wake up I have to listen or check if he's outside and then I just stay in my room until he leaves. I can't just wake up and tell him to leave because I would feel really awkward doing that, even though I know Islamically I should.  So, I do the next best thing and avoid all contact with the outside world.

I've told my husband many times that it's really weird for me if A is here and he is not, but he also doesn't want to say anything to his brother because he doesn't want it to seem like we don't want him here. He's a nice guy and very respectful, but I guess he just doesn't understand not to come when his brother isn't here.

Inshallah, we are looking for a wife for him, so the sooner he gets married, the sooner he'll be coming over with his wife and that will be much better for me!

Any advice on how to handle the situation without having feelings get hurt?

Until next time...

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Change Doesn't Happen on its Own, You Have to Make it Happen!

I want to make some changes in my life, inshallah. A little while ago, I was feeling really low and felt that my iman was on a plateau. Alhamdulillah, going to Santa Clara really helped because I was able to hang out with my sister-in-law who is a very good role model. Ever since I came back, I have been reading more Quran, spending more time in prayer and more time making dua. Alhamdulillah.

I want this change to continue but I know it's not just going to happen on it's own. If we want to be better Muslims, better versions of ourselves, then we have to put in the effort. We have to push ourselves and physically make a change.

I was sitting around hoping for iman to go up but that passive-aggressive behavior didn't get me the boost I needed. Now, I am setting some goals for myself to inshallah become a better Muslim. May Allah (swt) make it easy on me and help me. Ameen!

Here are a few goals I am setting for myself:

1. Stop wearing skinny jeans - I never used to wear them and then I started last winter because it was so easy to wear my boots on top of my jeans. However, I feel bad every time I wear them, since I know they are so tight. This one is going to be hard, because it's practically all I wear, but inshallah I am going to try and start wearing looser jeans.

2. Wear looser clothes, in general - In my opinion, I wear pretty loose tops, but I know I can do much better, so inshallah I will try to buy bigger sizes, in efforts to make my dressing more modest. Mediums and Larges instead of Smalls.

3. Recite at least 2 pages from the Quran every day- Inshallah I will try to do more, but I have to set at least a minimum goal here.

4. Read the English Translation of the ayats I read - This will give me something more practical to focus on and help me understand what I read.

5. Update my Facebook status with some Islamic Inspiration a few times a week - I plan to write maybe an ayat, dua, or some other Islamic knowledge in my FB status inshallah, so that people can read it and remember Allah (swt) and maybe I can reap some rewards inshallah for giving them that reminder.

6. Say Tasbih after each salah - I do say tasbih sometimes after my salah, but sometimes I don't because I'm in a hurry or just because I want to do something else. But I really need to put in the effort to sit on the prayer mat for just a little while longer and praise The Almighty!

That's all for now. I don't want to overwhelm myself with too much that I can't handle. I really hope I can keep up with my goals, inshallah. If anyone else is hoping for a change in their life, try to do the same and set goals for yourself, so that you have guidelines to follow and try to change things that you know you want to, but think might be too hard (like the jeans, for me).

Please keep me in your duas inshallah and I shall try to keep all of you in mine!

Until next time...

Family ♥

Allah (swt) has showered us with so many blessings and we still complain. The biggest blessing: family!

I love family. Alhamdulillah! My parents were just visiting me. They were here for 3 days and it was so much fun. And, OF COURSE, my husband! I love him soooo much! I have no idea why, but Allah has given me the best husband, alhamdulillah.

I pray that Allah (swt) showers us with more blessings and protects us from all the calamities in this life and the next. Ameen!

Until next time...

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Seeking Forgiveness?

Something happened today that reminded me of all the dumb things I've done and do in my life. I have no patience, Subhanallah! I always try and ask forgiveness for my sins, but mostly end up doing them again. It's so bad, I know! I genuinely try to be a good person, but I definitely fall short.

I was feeling a little hopeless, but I decided instead of giving up, the best thing to do is be proactive and repent for my sins. Praying to Allah (swt) is always the best thing to do, so if you're feeling hopeless and just need some reassurance, turn to Allah!

Allah (SWT) Most High says in Noble Qur'an, "Ask your Lord for forgiveness and then turn in repentance to Him..." (11:3)

Also Allah (SWT) Most High says in Noble Qur'an, "O you who believe! Turn (in repentance) to Allah with sincere repentance; Perhaps your Lord will remove your evil from you... " (66:8)

May this benefit everyone and be a reminder to me, before anyone else!

Until next time...

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Facebook Personalities: Part 2

Our next Facebook Personality is someone we've learned to hate! Okay, okay, not HATE, more like become annoyed by:

The Same-Picture Uploader

If a picture says a thousand words, then how many words does the same picture 500 times say? 

This is the person who takes about 5874 pictures anytime she (I'm going to say she, because, let's be honest, it almost always is a she) gets ready. She sits in front of her computer, laptop or phone and takes a bajillion pictures of herself. Now, it wouldn't be so bad if these pictures were different from one another, but, NOPE, no such luck! It's basically the same pose over and over again, with slight head-tilt variations. She does become a little innovative sometimes and will pout her lips from time to time and occasionally change that blank stare to a slight smile. But overall, it's the same picture. 

Then, instead of choosing, say, one or two of the pictures to upload, she decides that it's ABSOLUTELY necessary for her to upload *drum roll please* ALL 5874 pictures!


Here's a question: Does she think that people are actually going to sit there and spend at least a good 35 minutes looking at the same picture 5874 times?

Then, not only does she want people to look at them, she wants "Likes" and comments as well! 

There's actually a surprising number of people who suffer from this life-altering disease! Sorry sister, ain't getting no love from me!

Stay tuned for Part 3

Until next time...

Facebook Personalities: Part 1

Well, I'm sure all of you, like me, are avid Facebook users. Just like in real life, every person has a personality online. Most often, it's just a more emphasized reflection of how the person is in the flesh, but sometimes, a completely different personality takes over on FB. It really just depends on the person.

A personality that I'm sure you all have come across.

The Constant Updater

This person updates his or her status constantly from their laptop, phone, iPad or any other device they have! You won't miss a moment of this person's life, even if it is the dullest moment possible, even when absolutely NOTHING is happening, they're going to let you know. As a matter of fact, this person has made life very dangerous, because if anyone wanted to rob him/her, the burglar would know EXACTLY when to go into their house and what to steal because, of course, this idiot updates when he/she bought a new Macbook, TV, PS3 or phone.

4:51 pm: "Heading to New York for the weekend! YAY!"
5:30 pm: "On my way to New York! Will miss everyone!"
5:42 pm: "Stopped to get snacks and ran into an old friend. What were the chances?"
7:00 pm: "Just checked into my hotel. It's a little small but Alhamdulillah!"

OMG! You probably even know what this person had for breakfast, lunch and dinner and what time they took a crap! I bet if he/she went to Hajj, they'd focus more on updating their status, rather than experiencing the spiritual journey.

12:02 pm: "Just got to Haram. Subhanallah! It's crowded!"
12:10 pm: "Completed my first round around the Kabah!"
12:20 pm: "Done round two. Alhamdulillah!"
12:45 pm: "Off to drink Zam Zam...can't wait...it's so hot!"
12: 47pm: "Zam Zam was so refreshing! Time for Sayi!"

LOL I really hope that they wouldn't do that but all signs point to this inevitable end!

That's all for now. The next Facebook Personality will be up shortly!

Until next time...

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Eid Mubarak, everyone!

May Allah swt grant you a blessed Eid and accept our deeds and forgive our sins! AMEEN!

Until next time...

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Fast on the Day of Arafat!


I'm back home and very excited about it. It was a fun week in Santa Clara!

I just want to remind everyone that tomorrow is the Day or Arafat. And, though it sucks that most of us are not making Hajj, we can still get lots and lots of ajar, inshallah.

It is HIGHLY recommended to fast on the Day or Arafat for the people who are not at Hajj.

"Fasting on the day of 'Arafa is an expiation for two years, the year preceding it and the year following it. Fasting the day of 'Ashurah is an expiation for the year preceding it."
-Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings upon him

The Prophet told the Muslims, "No good deeds done on other days are superior to those done on these (first ten days of Dhul Hijja)." Then some companions of the Prophet said, "Not even Jihad?" He replied, "Not even Jihad, except that of a man who does it by putting himself and his property in danger (for Allah's sake) and does not return with any of those things."

So, Inshallah let's all try to fast tomorrow (Nov. 15) and get as much ajar as possible. 

May Allah (swt) accept out fasts and deeds and forgive our sins. Ameen!

Until next time...

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Quran Inspiration: Surah Balad, Ayat 4

I went to my sister's in law halaqa today with her in Santa Clara. Mashallah it was so well done and it is really what I needed. I can genuinely feel my iman getting higher since I have been here. She is a very good influence on me, May Allah (swt) reward her immensely in this life and the next, Ameen!

She did tafseer of Surah Balad (90). Something that was really good and hit me was ayat 4:

[Balad 90:4] We have indeed created man surrounded by hardships.

She basically said that Allah (swt) swears (and this has to be huge that our Lord is swearing to us) that we will have hardships, tests and turmoil no matter what in this life. So, whether you are on the right path or the wrong path, whether you are reading quran or clubbing, whether you are covered or uncovered, you will have hardships in your life.

So, is it better to have hardships in this life, while doing bad things and then have hardships in the akhira, due to punishment for our sins? 


Is it better to have hardships in this life, while being righteous (or at least trying to), and then having extreme happiness and rewards in the akhira, which will be infinite?

I think the answer is pretty clear. 

Until next time...

Monday, November 8, 2010

Fun Weekend

Wow, it's been a week since I last posted. I've been pretty busy. Thanks to everyone for all the great advice on my previous post. 

My friends were over from Windsor this past weekend. I hosted my best friend's bachelorette party here and it was so much fun! Alhamdulillah. We went shopping in downtown and then went out for dinner at a Moroccan restaurant that had belly dancers. We all had sashes so it was really cute.


Love her coat!

Belly Dancers

Bridal Party Sashes!

Now, I'm in Santa Clara for a week so I'm probably going to be MIA again, but I'll try to keep up with some posts inshallah. How was your weekend? 

Until next time...